The thing you want is hiding behind this

You’ve got a list of reasons you haven’t made the move yet.

The timing. The money. The market. The fact that it would look insane to anyone watching.

Every reason is true. And not one of them is the actual thing stopping you.

This week I talked with LauraAura, host of The Gutsy Podcast, and she said something I haven’t been able to put down:

Read that again, because it flips the whole problem.

We treat resistance like a wall. A sign we’re on the wrong path, that we’re not ready, that we should wait for the day it finally feels easy. So we wait. And the waiting feels responsible.

But resistance isn’t a wall. It’s a map. You don’t feel this kind of pull toward things you don’t care about. Nobody agonizes for two years over a decision that doesn’t matter to them.

The size of your resistance is a pretty accurate measure of how much the thing means to you.

Which means the move you keep flinching away from is worth a closer look. Not because you have to make it. Because your own avoidance just told you where the good stuff is.

Here’s where people get it twisted. Following your resistance does not mean quitting your job tomorrow. LauraAura was clear on this, and so am I: burnout is the worst possible place to make a permanent decision from.

When you’re running on empty, every option looks like too much, and fear does all the talking. If you’re there right now, the assignment isn’t a giant leap. It’s getting enough capacity back to think straight.

So here’s what I want you to do this week.

Write down the one move you keep talking yourself out of. The specific one. Not “figure out my life.” The actual thing. Send the email. Have the conversation. Apply for the role. Say the number out loud.

Then, next to it, write the real sentence underneath your hesitation. Not “the timing’s bad.” The true one.

“I’m scared I’ll fail and everyone will see.”

“I’m scared it works and I have to change my whole life.”

“I’m scared of who I’d be if this stopped being my identity.”

That second sentence is the resistance talking. And it’s standing directly in front of the thing you want.

You don’t have to move yet. You just have to stop calling it indecision. Indecision means you don’t know. You know. You’ve known for a while. What you’re actually doing is standing at the edge of something that matters, which is a very different problem, and a much more workable one.

The move you’re avoiding isn’t the risk. Staying frozen in front of it for another two years is the risk.

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This week on The Balanced Badass Podcast®, LauraAura and I get into how to make a gutsy move when you're burned out and scared it looks crazy from the outside, including why small moves beat big leaps and how to tell the difference between "not ready" and "talking yourself out of it."

Give it a listen.

Take care,

Tara